How well you influence others, tells in the things you do and the things you say.
Here are some habits you need to take note of if you are interacting with someone or people.
How often they check their phones.
There’s nothing more frustrating than someone pulling out their phones mid-conversation. A study from Elon University confirms that pulling out your phone during a conversation lowers both the quality and quantity of face-to-face interactions.
Their P’s and Q’s.
When I see someone who has a basic level of politeness and says ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ often, I know I’m dealing with a socially intelligent person. You don’t have to do much to overcome that bar, yet many people don’t have basic manners.
Repetitive, nervous habits.
Touching your nails or face or picking at your skin typically indicates that you’re nervous, overwhelmed, and not in control. Research from the University of Michigan suggests that these nervous habits are indicative of a perfectionistic personality, and that perfectionists are more likely to engage in these habits when they’re frustrated or bored.
How long you take to ask questions.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone where they talked about themselves the entire time? The amount of time someone allows to pass before they take an interest in you is a strong personality indicator. People who only talk about themselves tend to be loud, self-absorbed “takers”. People who only ask questions and share little about themselves are usually quiet, humble “givers”. Those who strike a nice balance of give-and-take are reciprocators and good conversationalists.
The shoes they wear.
According to a study published in Science Direct, shoes can reveal personality types. People who wear comfortable shoes tend to be relatively agreeable. Calm folks get a kick out of wearing uncomfortable shoes, maybe to express the agony they’re trying to hide. The aggressive lot prefers to wear ankle boots which seem to have no wise logic to it. Interestingly, anxious or clingy people prefer new and well-maintained footwear to relax their nervous energy.
Eye contact Habits.
The key to eye contact is balance. While it’s important to maintain eye contact, doing so 100% of the time is perceived as aggressive and creepy. At the same time, if you only maintain eye contact for a small portion of the conversation, you’ll come across as disinterested, shy, or embarrassed. Studies show that maintaining eye contact for roughly 60% of a conversation strikes the right balance and makes you come across as interested, friendly, and trustworthy.
The usage of the letter “I”.
If a person uses the word “I” a lot, there is a high possibility that the person is narcissist. Narcissists always like to talk about themselves, their accomplishments, success, beauty etc. These people see themselves as the best, superior, and do not care about the feelings and thoughts of the other person but only value their own.
Your’e Habits when you are drunk.
Most of the people present themselves best when they are high. They pull off all the masks and finally be themselves. Maybe that’s why most of the people like to be drunk because we feel tired of presenting ourselves as someone different, and being drunk, being our real selves, relaxes us.